Category: Self Care

Dealing With Sh*tty Bosses

Dealing with Shitty Bosses

Welcome to the Shitty Boss show! If you read this title and immediately have someone’s picture pop into your head and cringed a little, congratulations! Because, you have experienced dealing with a shitty boss. In this episode, the T-Uncut Crew talks about the kinds of things people can do or say that make them a shitty boss and how you can deal with it. Nikki, Jolene, and Alyssa talk about it all from insensitive comments, the inability to be accountable, micro-managing, lack of competence and more!

Episode Show Notes

In this episode we talk about:

Why are we talking about shitty bosses today? Because they are everywhere! If you have ever entered the professional world as an employee or a volunteer, there is a high possibility you have experienced working under a shitty boss. If you haven’t, consider yourself lucky! In today’s episode the Therapists Uncut tease out:

What Defines a Shitty Boss?

  • Insensitive or degrading comments
  • Passive aggressive communication or behaviors
  • Aggressive communication or behavior
  • Inability to be accountable for actions or poor decision making
  • Tendency to blame others
  • Inability to attribute credit where is it due
  • Possible questionable/unethical decisions or behaviors
  • Micro-managing
  • Hyper-controlling how tasks are completed
  • Low competence
  • Difficulty receiving constructive criticism
  • Lack of humility and vulnerability
  • Poor or minimal communication
  • Unclear expectations
  • Avoid tough conversations

How to Be a Great Boss

  • Be authentic
  • Be vulnerable
  • Be accountable for your decisions
  • Practice positive communication with your team
  • Be honest
  • Actively listen
  • Reflect on your own behaviors and work toward improving them
  • Lead by example

How to Manage your Work Environment when you have a Shitty Boss

  • Practice coping skills, grounding, and self-regulation skills to help manage your emotional responses at work (example: mindfulness, deep breathing, walking, distraction).
  • Set healthy boundaries. Decide what is okay with you and what is not okay with you at work.
  • Document. Document. Documents your communication, events, and verbal communication in writing via email to assist with maintaining real time documentation of events.
  • Assess how positive or even toxic the overall work environment is for you and decide how to move forward.

Listen to the full episode for real stories and how to deal with shitty bosses.

Therapists Uncut Challenge

Identify the shitty boss in your life or self-evaluate if YOU are the shitty boss and what you can do to improve. Yep, it just got real.

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What is the Therapists Uncut Podcast:

The Therapists Uncut Podcast is a light-hearted, informative self-help podcast for grown-ups. It is hosted by three off-the-clock therapists hoping to validate your experiences, normalize therapy, and help you prioritize your mental health.

Who are the Therapists Uncut Podcast Co-Hosts:

Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don’t worry because someone (usually Jolene) will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at

Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She can sometimes drift into daydreaming about the endless possibilities in life and usually the last one of the group to understand Nikki and Jolene’s punchlines.  She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services (CWS) social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, and owner and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at or

Jolene Daly is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Jolene is a seasoned therapist and private practice owner. She grew up in the Turlock, CA and Modesto, CA area most of her adult life and has been married to her comedian of a husband Jason for 20 years.  She is a genuine, authentic person with a bold personality. You’ll often catch Jolene challenging our listeners and her fellow co-hosts, as she is passionate about her personal and professional values and is vocal when it comes to speaking out for what’s right. Learn more about Jolene at


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