Why New Year’s Resolutions Suck and What You Can Do About Them

Let’s get 2021 started off right! Learn how to avoid the hype and fad of New Year’s resolutions and utilize preparation, commitment, mindset and other tools to help you not only set, but keep healthy habits all year long!

In this episode we talk about:

2020 was one hell of year, I think we can all agree, and so many people are looking forward to 2021 and that it will bring! While Jolene would much rather prefer a sneak preview…

“I want the sneak preview. I don’t believe the ball should drop until we all get to see the trailer!” – Jolene Daly on ringing in 2021

As we all would, we won’t know what the new year will bring until it rolls in.

Why New Year’s Resolutions Suck

Now, for those who are ready to set those New Year’s resolutions, hang tight for this 26-minute episode on why many New Year’s resolutions fail including:

  • Loss of motivation
  • The setting of unrealistic or unreasonable goals (especially if you have the same goal every year but are doing nothing different to get you closer to it, yet expect different results)
  • “All or Nothing” thinking

How to Create Sustainable Healthy Habits

Instead, learn tips on how to set resolutions (or goals) for the year that are actually attainable, and not just for the short term, but for the long run! Resolutions are great to get you motivated, but there are a few things that you can put in place to help you change, create, and sustain healthier long-term habits in the New Year.

Tip 1: Be realistic, avoid All or Nothing thinking or zero to sixty thinking

  • Identify your baseline first, your starting line
  • Set small, achievable goals that gradually work you toward your long term goal

Tip 2: Have an accountability partner to help keep each other on track

Tip 3: Use SMART goals (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Reasonable, Time Based)

Tip 3: Commit to the smaller changes for a more sustainable outcome

“I will say that I am one that when I get an idea or set a goal, I tend to go balls to the wall and blow it. I go hard, then I hurt myself. Then, I have to recover!” – Nikki Young on past New Year’s resolutions

Tip 4: Use your personality in terms of the introversion or extroversion scale to determine what can be a reinforcer. Is it socialization when you engage in this habit, or it independently completing an activity or habit in solitude (if you identify more as introvert).

Tip 5: Count your “baby steps” because this is PROGRESS, too! And celebrate them!

Tip 6: “Don’t Shit on Yourself.” Get yourself in the right mindset. Focus on what you have achieved, not what you didn’t do. Listen to what you need to listen to keep you in the right mindset. Focus on

Tip 7: Use Visualization or Vision board to help keep you on track

Tip 8: Reflect on why you are creating or changing these habits in the first place. What’s the purpose?

Resources mentioned:

We’ve pulled together any resources mentioned in this episode and put together some links:

A Proven Plan for Financial Success | DaveRamsey.com

See How You Can Start Waking Up Everyday to Your Full Potential (miraclemorning.com)

Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones: Clear, James: 9780735211292: Amazon.com: Books

Thank you for allowing us into your lives and helping us make mental health more relatable and a part of your everyday conversation! For more information or to access all episodes visit TherapistsUncut.com.

Who we are:

Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don’t worry because someone (usually Jolene) will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at catalystcounselinginc.com

Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She can sometimes drift into daydreaming about the endless possibilities in life and usually the last one of the group to understand Nikki and Jolene’s punchlines.  She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services (CWS) social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, and owner and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.

Jolene Daly is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Jolene is a seasoned therapist and private practice owner. She grew up in the Turlock, CA and Modesto, CA area most of her adult life and has been married to her comedian of a husband Jason for 20 years.  She is a genuine, authentic person with a bold personality. You’ll often catch Jolene challenging our listeners and her fellow co-hosts, as she is passionate about her personal and professional values and is vocal when it comes to speaking out for what’s right. Learn more about Jolene at dalymft.com.


Thank you for joining Therapists Uncut, a production of AMP Smart Business. To learn more about Therapists Uncut and stay up on upcoming episodes, please subscribe and follow us on social media. As a reminder, although the Therapists Uncut co-hosts are licensed therapists, they are not your therapist. This podcast is not intended to substitute professional mental health counseling. If you need professional therapy, please contact your local provider or primary care provider.  Thanks for listening and we’ll see you on the next episode of Therapists Uncut!

Social Media Links

Instagram @therapistsuncut

Facebook @therapistsuncut


Therapists Uncut is a production of AMP Smart Business.

Voice Over by Alexia Gloria