49: Practicing Self Awareness Part 2

Brief Summary

One of the hardest things for a person to come to terms with can be dealing with their own flaws. This week, the crew continues their conversation on self-awareness including how to recognize self-awareness, how to practice self-awareness, and learning how to trust the ongoing process of self-reflection.

In this episode we talk about:

Common ways of lacking self-awareness

  • Blaming/Failing to take accountability
  • Lack of empathy
    • Empathy is defined as putting yourself into another person’s shoes and point of view.
  • Excessive and unproductive arguing
  • Inability to accept feedback

Ways to Improve Self-Awareness

Practicing self-awareness can help improve communication, improve your mood, and positively impact your relationships. Nikki Young and Alyssa Najera give valuable tips on ways to practice self-awareness. To start,

  • Ask yourself, “What is happening that’s causing me to react this way?” and “What do I want to learn from this?”
  • What personality characteristics are “triggering” for you and why?
  • Work on being vulnerable with self-acknowledgements
  • Use therapy to help you gain perspective and set personal goals
  • Use journaling to engage in consistent reflection
  • Utilize Mindful practices, i.e., meditation (tune in to 49 Self-Awareness Part 1 for more)
  • Have meaningful conversations with an honest, trustworthy friend and be open to their feedback

Therapists Uncut Challenge:

Reflect on yourself over the past year. Allow yourself to be vulnerable and create a list of some strengths and weaknesses. Then, ask a close friend or family member to help you reflect on this list and give you feedback.

Resources mentioned:

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The Therapists Uncut Podcast is a light-hearted, informative self-help podcast for grown-ups. It is hosted by three off-the-clock therapists hoping to validate your experiences, normalize therapy and therapists, and help you prioritize your mental health.

Who are the Therapists Uncut Podcast Co-Hosts:

Nikki Young is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Nikki keeps it personable and professional. Yet, she always manages to keep the Therapists Uncut family and followers laughing. You may find her squirreling through topics, stories, or jokes, and all in good fun. Don’t worry because someone will bring her back around to the conversation. Nikki is a licensed marriage and family therapist in her private practice located in Modesto, CA, and she is also a Crisis Junkie at heart. In addition to being co-owner of a group private practice, she is also a crisis clinician responding to local mental health crisis and emergencies. Learn more about Nikki at catalystcounselinginc.com

Alyssa Najera is co-host of Therapists Uncut and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. Alyssa is typically calm and composed on most days, but often has difficulty containing her excitement about the little things in life. She loves to laugh, spread positivity, and is often caught with a smile on her face. Alyssa is also a Child Welfare Services social worker and supervisor alumni, previous child sexual abuse forensic interviewer, trainer and consultant, and CEO of a group private practice in the small town of Oakdale, CA. Learn more about Alyssa at smalltowncounselingca.com or alyssanajera.com.


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